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: Real posits that boys are wounded early (ages 3–5) by a societal "code of masculinity" that demands disconnection from their own hearts, desires, and mothers. He describes this as a process of "turning boys into men" by making them invulnerable.

In his seminal work, , psychotherapist Terrence Real explores a "silent epidemic" of depression among men. He argues that while women are often socialized to internalize emotional pain, men are taught that vulnerability is "unmanly," leading them to mask their depression through destructive behaviors like rage, workaholism, and substance abuse. Core Concepts and Analysis I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the S...

is "all but invisible" and often chronic. Men use "maneuvers" to escape their pain, such as acting out, addiction, and aggression. : Real posits that boys are wounded early