If they feel responsible for your pain, they may "shut down" or deflect to avoid feeling like a "bad person."
One person often wants to be "fixed" (logic), while the other just wants to be "felt" (emotion). you_dont_understand_me
People often listen through the lens of their own experiences. They aren't hearing your story; they are hearing their version of it. If they feel responsible for your pain, they
We often communicate the "tip" (our anger or withdrawal) without sharing the "mass" (our underlying fear, exhaustion, or hurt). you_dont_understand_me
If you’ve tried to be clear and the "You don't understand me" feeling persists, the issue might be on their end: